WALK ME DOWN THE AISLE SERIES : Episode 9 : New Home. 12 DAYS

Its 12 days left from today and as I type this piece my mind is singing “12 days of Christmas”. I think I can sing my own remix version of the “12 days of my wedding” today thus…for these 12 days to wedding, my true love said to me, I love you and all will be fine… 🙂

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 I moved into the new flat. Tendai still isn’t here and will only see the flat for the first time on the day she is moving into it and that will be on the 26th of April 2015…yes in case you still haven’t caught up…we will be officially Mr and Mrs then!!! I have been in the flat for 4 days now and only about 5% of the boxes have been unpacked. I have thought about unpacking but after thinking of how much effort that will take and the high possibility that Tendai may have a different opinion with mine when she comes in so I decided I will rather wait for her so we can unpack together.

In the meantime, I have the couch and bed set up, I also have the TV and DsTV working then in the kitchen, the fridge, kettle and microwave are up and running. This means activities that I can do now includes watch my favourite TV programmes and catch up on news, sleep and yes keep my tea flowing.

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I am a believer in the scripture that says “he who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord”. I have indeed found favour from the Lord since I started my walk down the aisle and as I approach closer and closer to the stage and alter, I look at the pew and all I see is friends and family who have stood by me and supported me and us all the way. They have been part of this very eventful walk down the aisle and I certainly will remain eternally grateful to each and every one of them. Their names are being scribbled in gold in my personal hall of fame.

In addition to these great people, I see favour and favour and favour. Indeed this scripture has come alive for me especially these last few weeks when things seem to just crowd my plate and a lot of responsibility needs attention. I still can’t tell how I have managed to meet all the datelines and catch up with all my responsibilities. I have slept less, spent more and still remain fresh and sharp as well as saved more. I keep spending by account balance does not seem to be going down in correlation with the expenditure. I can attribute it to God’s favour. I have found a wife and God has favoured me deeply. Sweet Jesus!!

So as I spend my final couple of days in Cape Town before I commence my trip to Nigeria for the wedding, I am at peace. I am excited and I know that it will be a happy day not because of what we have planned and accomplished, but more because it is a decision I have made. I have decided to be happy come what may. It is my OUR special day, God has blessed it and so long I have Tendai happy and by my side along with friends and family all else can pale into insignificance.

12 days to go and I count my blessings and name them one by one, I am surprised at what the Lord has done and still is doing for me…One week five days to go or 288 hours and I can say I am favoured by God.

Walk me down the Aisle series I – 70 Days : Once a week for 10 weeks

I am about to take a plunge into a world that is unknown to me. I am about to embark on an adventure that will last the rest of my life. The feelings I have about the whole new life and what it holds for me and the future is a true cocktail of feelings…runs through the whole range from extremely excited on the one extreme to a little apprehensive at the other extreme.

In Exactly 70days I will be walking down the aisle with the one I love and call my “soul-mate”. I will be getting married to Tendai Musvuugwa( I will teach you how to pronounce that name though after 5 years of trying I still have not perfected it…I have to doff my cap to Zimbabweans)

This will begin a series of post I will be making over the next 10 weeks as I count down to this big day of my life. I will be addressing all the issues I have encountered and will encounter leading to this big day. I will also tell our story or rather some more of it…previously I had told you abit about us..if you missed it, you can read it here. I will also in addition to writing about my thoughts also share the thoughts of others I find inspiring or insightful on this subject. I will also share some of our pictures, some songs I love and more…it will be a new thing for each post for the 10 weeks leading up to April 18, 2015.

So why the big deal about writing anyway? well, because I want to write about it! I have seen a lot written about weddings and the married life but mostly by ladies so I thought I through in something different into the mix…and here you have it…a wedding and married life from the perspective of a man.

 I read somewhere that there are three most important days in a man’s life. The day a man is born, the day he gets married and the day he dies. Everyone gets the chance to experience two of these days – the first and the third. Others are privileged to experience all three. It went on to say of these three days, one stands out as most important…the other two are not as important and the reason being that on the two occasions(the first and last), one is helpless and can do little about the when and how of it.

The first day one is born you are an infant and totally dependent on others for everything, you also have no say in when or how you are born. On the third day when you die you also have no say and your body will be interred the way the loved ones you leave behind go about it. The 2nd of these three days however is most important because you are alive, an adult and call the shots on what and how things will be done. This therefore makes it the most Important of the three hence the need to cherish it most and make it as memorable as you can.

I am moved to agree with the story so I plan to have a great wedding and plan to enjoy every bit of it as I plan to have only one wedding so it’s a one shot at making it work for me hence the big deal about it.

WEDDING DAY

First interesting fact about is if you have not noticed is we are from different countries, different regions and traditions, same continent and share the same heart with a Love that’s tailor-made in heaven just for us. She is Zimbabwean and I am Nigerian. We met in Madagascar and now both based in South Africa! Now let that sink in…I will give more as the weeks roll by.

So for the wedding we decided to have two functions. One in Nigeria and another in the mother city – Cape Town. We wanted having the second function in Zimbabwe but really couldn’t pull it off for some reasons….ermmm let’s say being a Nigerian comes some with a lot of free add-ons and I have had my own share of it J. By virtue of our being an “international couple”(I wish I know what that means), we are expecting both functions to be a reflection of that. As at today I can confirm the wedding will have guests from over 13 countries spread over 3 continents!!

Ok…that is it for the first in the 10 week series…stay with me as I return next week with the next episode in the series. If you have any particular topic you will want me to address in the course of this 10 week marathon, You can drop a comment  and I am sure to address it.

That’s it for now folks….CheersMe and her

LULU

“Time flies”….they say “when you are having fun”…This is so true as I still sit now and think back on the first day we said hello…It was a Saturday afternoon…I still remember it so clear because it feels like yesterday. I still remember the red jacket you wore and the brown winter boots. I was sitting at my station starring at my computer screen trying to concentrate and work with little success. I remember the first words you uttered…“hello, my name is Lulu I thought I should introduce myself to you.”

That was how we met and that was the beginning of what blossomed into one of the best friendship I ever had. I believe you were God’s answer to my prayers….it was a difficult time for me then. God knew I needed a friend and He gave me even more…God not only gave me a friend but a friend and a sister…wrapped in one beautiful parcel called Lulu.

ImageIt is a year now since that day and again I find myself sitting at the same station. It is a Monday today but it feels like a Saturday…maybe because it is a public holiday and there are few people around like is the case in weekends. Again I am starring at my computer screen and trying hard to concentrate and do just one thing. I am secretly wishing you would walk up to me and say hi again but I know this won’t happen. Beside me are your packages which I am preparing to post to you.

I sit today one year after and it is mixed feelings. I am Sad that you are not here and won’t be here again. I am also happy because you had to leave because the mission has been accomplished. You had finished your 3 year research and had to return to those 3 lovely boys of yoursJ. I miss you here but I know you should be there with them.

I thought I should take out a few minutes and put down my feelings and appreciation for you. My life won’t have been the same without you this past year. You gave me the opportunity to grow and develop in all aspect of my life. You were my friend, study partner, prayer partner, special advisor, advocate, confidante and sister. For this I remain eternally grateful to you..

This moment I will take to say my favorite Irish prayer and blessing for you my dear friend….

“May God give you…
For every storm, a rainbow,
For every tear, a smile,
For every care, a promise,
And a blessing in each trial.
For every problem life sends,
A faithful friend to share,
For every sigh, a sweet song,
And an answer for each prayer.”

“May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face;
the rains fall soft upon your fields and until we meet again,
may God hold you in the palm of His hand.”

So my friend, till we meet again…in the near future I hope (I am already saving for my ticket to Dar es salaam) 🙂 , The Lord keep you and your family save.

Six-Word Memoir

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“Oh wow, oh wow, oh wow” I just read somewhere that those where the last words of Steve Jobs…well, I guess not literally but on record, perhaps his last words at a public function. In Six words Steve gave a memoir – his mini Autobiography and it speaks of amazement and awe!!! But wait a minute, isn’t that exactly what we remember him with today? The ‘I-’ family from the pods to the pads and more still leave us going oh wow, oh wow, oh wow.

That  got me thinking of a devotional I read a few days ago…now let me give you a summary… 🙂

King Solomon…was one of the greatest men to have ever lived, blessed with Riches and Wisdom like no man had before him…and maybe not after him – yet 🙂 I am sure if Solomon had lived in this generation, he would have been a blogger…I am a great fan of two of his books…Proverbs and Ecclesiastes. While Proverbs is full of wise sayings, Ecclesiastes is mostly known for the frequency of the word “vanity” in it highlighting Solomon’s disillusionment about life.

The comparism is so glaring…while at the beginning of his life Solomon got all his priorities right and his words were wrapped with wisdom which gained him worldwide recognition and respect, I can’t help but notice the disappointment coming from Solomon’s words in Ecclesiastes. One man two books, two messages. “God has given me great wisdom” would have been an apt memoir for Solomon at the end of Proverbs. Coming to Ecclesiastes however, Solomon had a completely different experience as he captured his conclusion on matters with these words “…Fear God and Keep His commandments…” this he said is the whole duty of man…I can’t agree more. Somewhere in between Proverbs and Ecclesiastes Solomon might have had his focus blurred and lost his bearing…but he made a 360 degree turn and found his focus again hence these great six words in his conclusion – words I am sure are worth heeding by you and I.

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I read of an online magazine which invited its readers to submit six-word memoirs that describe their lives (I call it a mini auto biographyJ) …the responses were as varied, interesting, inspiring and shocking as the readers were varied… 😀

Now I present you with the opportunity to write your six-word memoir too….you just might inspire someone or get inspired by someone … 🙂

Get writing friends 🙂